3)how to stop negative emotions or or thoughts?
World is mixture of both good and bad people. It's been the same since ages. No period is full of good people and no period is full of bad people. It's always the mix, it's going to be mix too forever. Hence we bound to experience both kind of people and both kind of emotions, being living here. Nobody's perfect and we all do mistakes. That's the first understanding or acceptance we should have.
The common negatives i came across, goes like a father having extreme anger issues, any family member having extreme negativity nd we getting effected by it, or any friend or colleague or any random people trying to hurt us or offer their negativity. Whichever the scenario it could be, always think why they are behaving so, whether it's coz of their immaturity, ignorance or some people goes through trauma and they vent it in that way or due to some mental illness etc. There could be many reasons, always point out or make those reasons as responsible but don't make the whole "individuals" as bad. Don't make anyone as enemy.
When you consciously put the blame on reasons than individuals themselves, we no longer develop hatred towards them. No hatred means no entanglement. This whole process is not like we doing a favour to them or we trying to be good. It's for our own peace of mind and health, a pure selfish purpose. We still may get anger towards them, which is normal but it never transforms into hatred. It helps a lot especially when we live with such people all the time. Because living 24/7 with someone you hate leads to constant turmoil in your mind. If you encounter any negative random person outside you can avoid them if possible.
4) Be aware of constructive criticism
Just because someone said something negative about you doesn't mean you should neglect everyone. Question yourself whether, what the other person saying has some truth about it. If you find something valid, take their statements into consideration and get better, rather than hating them.
5) Pessimistic thoughts
People who are pessimistic by nature, they find very tough to stop those thoughts/emotions. For them, instead of trying to stop that negativity, they can just start thinking about positive outcomes."What if I succeed, what if the other person is good" when they counter question their negativity appropriately, when they consistently imagine situations going good they gradually improve alot.
Whatever we focus it develops, whether it's positive or negative. That's the key. That doesn't mean we must be positive always. Which then becomes superficial. It's completely fine to go through momentary emotions anger, irritation or any negative emotion. The only thing is we should come out of those emotions very soon. A hour ,two or mostly a day. Don't let them stay for longer periods.
6) Last but not least
Take proper sattvik foods to gain control on emotions/thoughts. Avoid intense foods. Do meditation or any other activities to get external support. Those are as crucial as above ones.
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