5 parenting things every parent should be aware of

5 parenting things every parent should be aware of


The most beautiful yet responsible thing in this world is parenting.There are certain things that can create huge difference if taken care.Nothing can be happier to a parent if their role is portrayed perfectly.So let us see what's our list is filled with.

1)Quarrels
One thumb rule every parent needs to remember is to avoid quarells with your partner infront of your child. Even a small fight or argument is a big No when your growing child is around you.It doesn't mean that parents should not have any fights or opinion differences.If you need to argue or to talk about an issue,fix some time and place so that privacy is maintained between partners,again make sure your child can't disturb the privacy.To do this there should be mutual co operation between the partners.The reason for this kind of approach is,If any parent quarells with his partner then the child will get frightened.And if it happens then the child will definitely face numerous psychological problems and mental disorders which are hard to cure.This kind of childrens may turn into psychopaths when they become young which inturn problem to both society and for the family.The child may also make the habit of fighting with the people around him even for the small issues , needless to say how big the problem will be in today's world.Its a big blunder if parents quarrel infront of their children.It doesn't make a big deal if a child witness two or three Quarrels in his entire childhood but more the number the more suffering the child will face!


2)Comparison
By this title you might have got a clear idea of what I am going to talk about.Probably you may had faced in your childhood,Yes comparison!Usually Many children  get frustrated about this defect present in their parents.Still today in some(I guess more ) families, it's pretty normal to see parents comparing their own child to another kid .If a parent abuses his/her child by comparing with others the child will get an impression that he/she is not self worthy ,knowingly or unknowingly the child will begin to make a habit of degrading own self in every aspect of his/her life .Its not a good approach because there are different people in this world and each person will be having different scenarios while they grow .The environment they bought up and the family they live with and the surrounding people who creates impact on them decides the ability of a child.So logically there is no point in comparison.It's not difficult to assume where their confidence levels stand in that context. Every child will have their own set of strengths and weaknesses. It's not a clever move if parents make Comparison and expect growth from their child. Comparison can be in any form,it may be either between one kid and another kid or even between the siblings .The later one causes numerous problems when the siblings become young.Hatred levels between them will be extremely high ,which is actually not desired by their parents.So parents can use comparison in a positive and sportive way such that in end of the day the kid acheives improvement rather than generating negative effects.


3) Motivation
It's every parent responsibility to provide sufficient motivation to their child . We can't explain in words how we feel when our parents support us and shower some motivational words.Every kid deserves that but unfortunately majority of children won't get this kind of support from parents and they fail to face the consequences.Bravery is one of the essential asset because who can expect in what kind situation the life will drop you.In today's world we all know how frequently we hear the news that someone commits suicide because of troubles they face in their lives .People have  weak personalities and can't even have the resistance to face temparory struggles.So by the time the kid becomes young he should have the capacity to face any kind of situation in his life.It is the greatest benefit a kid can receive from a parent as survival is the top priority for us followed by health , wealth and status in society.Another interesting angle in motivation is a parent must be aware of reality .A motivation which is given keeping reality in view is an outstanding one.It will also help the kid to decide where to hold the grip and where to release in life.

4)Dangers Of Extremity
Extremity is avoidable.Did you think what does this mean ? Well ! You might have come across some families where parents exhibit extreme care to their kids.It's like smothering  the kid in the name of care .In majority of cases even the parent is not aware of his/her actions,which is really the saddest part.The kid from this type of families find himself/herself in a big trouble when the kid needs to socialise .In other words the child will become an introvert to the core.The kid will be unaware of social etiquettes which in turn effect the society acceptance.Naturally, being humans we will try to communicate with our fellow mates and no need say how disgusting the kid will feel when he/she unable to mingle with people.In this type of scenarios Extreme care will be taken by parents in each and every little context related to child.If a parent won't let a kid to learn the things by their own then how can the kid develop a personality.In this type of families the parents are the law makers ,the kid at any cost must listen to the opinion of their parents.In the process the kid will lose all his creativity and decision making capabilities.

5)Values
Each individual together makes a society.When the child is at intial stage of understanding outer world,it would be great if he gets an input about the importance of relations with his family members and friends . In ancient times schools used to be main source for moral values. Students received the knowledge about technical things and as well as moral values ,So there was no need for parents to concentrate on well being of their child.But Nowadays Unfortunately schools are focussing only on technical growth and ignoring moral values.So it's parent turn to teach the importance and necessity of moral things that includes humanity , Helping nature towards fellow mates, respect towards elders etc.The person who recieved proper guidance from parents will be more happier in their life than who didn't. This will definitely bring unbelievable change in society ,which is beneficial for both us and society.


There is a proverb that we can change the direction of a plant when it is growing but we can't alter the same when it becomes a tree.So it's better if parents try to take care of the things when the child is young rather than trying hard to change his personality after his growth.

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